Honestly the biggest indicator of the extent of John’s grief, his hurt, after Reichenbach, is the way he didn’t speak to Mrs Hudson, instead opting to “let it all slide”.
(This is the woman who’d gone from “I’m not your housekeeper” in ASIP to “I’m not your mother” in TEH.)
Literally shutting the door on part of your life like that is a symptom of trauma denial – of fleeing what you’ve been through – rather than any kind of processing of grief; and he’s a doctor. He must know that. (What’s more, he’s a doctor who’s seen a therapist for trauma.)
John didn’t process a thing. He shut the door behind him at 221 Baker Street, and didn’t speak to Mrs Hudson, and drank (MHR), and found a new person to forget with.






